to sparkle, with love

dear sparkle,

i'm taking a little time while you're snoozing today to write you a letter that's been on my heart.

i want...no, i NEED to take the time to tell you how very much we want you.

let me explain.

since the very night you were born, well-meaning friends, family, nurses, co-workers and doctors have been asking us the question that we knew was coming:

3 girls, huh?  Are you going to try for a boy?

i try not to get offended at statements and questions like these.

i decided a while ago that i was going to be the type of person who didn't get offended.

and i know that people mean well.

but, let me just state, for the record...we are not disappointed

how could we be?

and i will forever remind you that your daddy and i wanted CHILDREN

not necessarily girls...

or boys...

just children to love

and we have been blessed over and over and over

i do mean blessed.

sometimes i get the feeling that these people consider us unlucky

and while i know that boys are undeniable, wonderful gifts

your daddy and i are in agreement that a trio of sisters is truly unique and heavenly in its own way

if the question were asked, "will you have more children?"

the answer would be:  maybe

i need a little while to get the hang of three and a few nights of solid sleep before i make a decision like that

however, IF we have more children, i want you to KNOW that it is not because our hearts are not satisfied with you and your sisters

you three girls are our priceless gift

if we have more children, it will be because we feel that we have space in our home and hearts for more children

not certain types of children

just children....be they boys OR girls

and if we choose to share this life with more children, we would WELCOME another girl...with glad hearts

we live in a time and place where there is nothing you can do with a boy that you can't do with a girl

we will teach you girls about gymnastics and dance and fishing and pigtails and french braids and skirts and playing in the mud and trucks and hunting and dolls

we will have tea parties while talking about tractors

we will color pictures of princesses and take you to baseball games

we will paint our toenails in the morning and teach you to throw a football in the afternoon

maybe everyone who thinks we should keep "trying" for a boy doesn't understand just what a treasure it is to watch your sisters gently stroke your hair and kiss your face

but i know

and i want you to know.....you are wanted, treasured, adored

God knew exactly what he was doing, placing you in this family

The Lord knows that if there is a man out there who can raise three girls and have fun doing it...its your daddy

and though i never, ever pictured my life brimming with girly toys and clothes everywhere i look, i am pleasantly surprised at how much i'm enjoying it

you are so very welcome here, sparkle

with love,

momma